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11/22/19

As I said before this was blog was suppose to be about my adventures with grandma. It was to help those with the ups and downs as a care taker for family members with dementia……

I still read articles but considering I’m never home now its hard to know how grandma is… She knows I’m not home but she’s happy I’m out working. She’s probably happy I’m out of the house (lol). When I am home she’ll ask me everyday if I’m leaving… “ Not today grandma” then I usually tell her how many days we have left. I always tell her that I’ll miss her… She tells me she’ll miss me too. Last time she told me to get to bed soon and get some rest… I asked her, “You’re right, you wanna tuck me in bed?” BOY my momma cut me off so quit haha… No matter what age I’ll always be grandma’s baby. I promise you she would have tucked me in that night.

I remember the days I would come home from college…. She would come wake me up by rubbing my back. Breakfast was usually ready, laundry would be done. It is safe to say my grandma did everything she could for me. I appreciate everything she’s ever done. While I was away at school she would call me and surprise me “I put some money in your account to go get something to eat if you want.”

It’s harder these days… She no longer drives, nor has a house phone. She can’t call me anymore when she’s missing me. I can no longer reach her as quick as I once could… With that being said I’ve started to adjust to life outside of grandma… life outside of Oklahoma. I swore to myself I would stay close until she was gone. I will be leaving Oklahoma as of 2020 to start a new adventure. I look forward to it but have a heavy heart leaving her behind. I’ll miss many of things, but of course home will always be home.

I started to reflect that life does go on…. She did numerous things in her 88 years of life. Grandma and Grandpa raised a beautiful family. If it wasn’t for their love we wouldn’t be here. In previous postings I emphasized how she raised us to leave the nest. Out of the grandchildren many of them have successfully left “the nest”. I noticed while I was in Montana working… Every day life goes on. We adjust without that person there, we continue about our business with or without said individual. I would say its easy leaving home but its not. This thing we call life is literally a trip…

I thank Creator everyday my grandmother is here and always will. I was able to FaceTime her tonight. Thank goodness for technology! With all this being said, say a pray and give your close ones a hug. We never know when Creator will call us home so remember everyday is a blessing my friends….

MVTO – Jess

Published by jessarkeketa

My name is Jessica Arkeketa. I am a member of the Otoe-Missouria Tribe of Oklahoma. I currently reside in Sand Springs, Oklahoma. I’ve always had a passion for writing but never made an effort to make my writing public. Also this is a helpful resource to help me cope with my aging grandmother.

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