Hokte and Aunt Sis


My grandma is the oldest of 7 kids. I adore my great aunt and uncles. I remember running around Creek country with most of them. Today I took grandma and her baby sister out to eat. My aunt sis, to be honest I never knew her real name for the longest time. Seems like once you get a nickname, it sticks. Hokte is my grandmother’s nickname that her siblings and cousins have call her for years. So when trying to create the name for my blog, Memoirs with Hokte came to mind.

Grandma and I wanted to get out of the house today. I asked her what she wanted to do, she told me ” I want to see my sister”. I said “yes ma’am”. At lunch today we caught up on the latest gossip which wasn’t much because at their age now they don’t remember what is what. It made for a good laugh though. Dang grandma might not always be there in her mind but as soon as I say, “Hey grandma, guess what??” Boy she pops up, “What?!” I usually never have anything to tell her so it makes for a good laugh as well.

It’s never easy watching your loved ones age. I’m always thankful that I’m still able to take my grandma and great aunt out once in awhile. Oh I forgot to mention how ornery those two can be! I tell you what they can shame me out sometimes lmao. It’s all in good fun. I’ve been watching my grandmother these past few weeks. These articles are not as easy to read or accept. Mind you my grandmother has had dementia probably longer than when the doctors first diagnosed her. Her mobility is not the same. It takes her a little longer to get off the couch. It’s takes her a little longer to get up the stairs, etc etc etc. I have a link that connects with some of the symptoms she’s having. I’m not saying she’s too this point yet. It’s just somethings I have noticed and that you might notice as well in a loved one.

https://www.dementiacarecentral.com/aboutdementia/facts/stages/ this article goes into links of the stages of dementia. I’ll never be prepared for the day my grandma forgets my name. I pray we never have to put her in a home as well. I can not predict the future. I’ve had many people tell me that one day she will forget my name. She will forget who I am. For now she still brightens up when I walk in the house. Always remember to tell your loved ones that you love them. Everyday is becoming harder to walk out the house and telling her goodbye. She’s always in a cheerful mood when I leave. You never know what day could be their last. So I encourage you to take the time to spend with your loved ones. I thought pushing myself away could fill the void. Instead I rather be here for the rest of her days.

This following article I have attached is another blog that is called “Dealing with Dementia” https://dealingwithdementia.wordpress.com . I started following this blog to help me and what is going on in my life. I know I’m not much help myself but this blog is a good asset to have. I highly encourage you to give it a follow.

I’ll always try to end on a positive note. It was a fun day with grandma today. Another day in the books. Some days I feel like this blog is my saving grace. It might not be much to you but it means a lot to me.

Published by JustJess

My name is Jessica Arkeketa. I am a member of the Otoe-Missouria Tribe of Oklahoma. I currently reside in Sand Springs, Oklahoma. I’ve always had a passion for writing but never made an effort to make my writing public. Also this is a helpful resource to help me cope with my aging grandmother.

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